“You Dying First Was Not Part of My Plan”

By Beatrice Toney Bailey

“I found myself laughing and crying all in the matter of a few minutes. Bea eloquently captured the dilemmas a partner experiences when facing the life crises of a loved one. … I know that her suggestions really will help someone who is overwhelmed and needs a gentle caring voice to provide practical advice.”

Jeanne A. Conry, MD, Roseville, CA

 

In my 55 years of caring for families, I have never seen such an open and true expression of feelings from the bereaved spousal care provider. Her checklists are very helpful and complete, and being willing to bare herself—and laugh, her book can provide assistance and down-to-earth guidance to those who newly learn that their loved one has a terminal illness.

Russ Monroe, Owner, Village Chapel Funeral Home, Fair Oaks, CA

 

"An excellent resource at a time when clarity of thought is clouded by emotion.

In my experience in helping clients manage the financial aspects of this stage in life,

this book provides the tools in one organized guide."

Andrew D. Spitz, CFS, CRPC®

Senior Financial Advisor | Advanced Advisor Group

 

“Farewell, My Friend” is written for anyone who just might die one day or who has a friend or loved one who has been diagnosed with a catastrophic illness and is facing possible death.  The book leads you through a step-by-step process of what to do when you received the diagnosis and the necessary actions that need to be taken during the actual dying, death, and grief process.

 

Some of the areas covered in this book are:

đ        How to meet with medical professionals and document your discussions.

đ        Setting up a sick room from start to finish.

đ        Handling legal matters and contract issues.

đ        Maintaining your sanity and learning to perform like a matador by side stepping the “bull” that comes your way … olé!

đ        Navigating through the worlds of hospice, dying, death, grief and “closure”.

đ        Visualizing your new life.

The Author

Beatrice Bailey was born and raised in Davenport, Iowa to a Baptist minister and a mother who was a gospel-recording artist. She has three sisters and one brother. She attended the University of Iowa and graduated with a BA in Psychology from California State University, Sacramento.

 

Retired since 2004 from management positions with both the Xerox Corporation and the State of California, Bea now conducts customized seminars on “Budgeting for the Not So Rich and Famous,” “Putting the Puzzle Pieces Together…The Ultimate Balancing Act,” as well as interview techniques entitled, “Selling the Sizzle and Not the Steak.” In addition, she is active in St. Paul Baptist Church in Sacramento, serving as an Adult Sunday School teacher, as well as a Small Accountability Group leader and is a member of the Strategic Team for Assessment, Implementation, and Review (STAIR). She is also a co-facilitator of the national GriefShare support group.

 

To relax, Bea likes to work out at the gym, walk, knit, paint, sew, cook, garden, and read.  Traveling within the United States, Mexico, Asia and Europe is one of Bea’s true passions.   She has two married children and five wonderful grandchildren. She resides in Northern California.

 

Beatrice Toney Bailey

PO Box 2444

Citrus Heights, CA 95611-2444                    (916) 745-3454                                   beatricebailey@yahoo.com

IBSN# 978-0-9801520-0-5